November 2009




Princesses, originally uploaded by Justpowers.

Emma and her friend Kaylee had a play date this week.

Cuteness ensued.

Will turned eight months old a few days ago. True-to-form for me this second time around I missed his seventh month update completely and am now late for his eighth.

To be fair, I was a little sleep deprived during his seventh month. It has been a rough couple of months here, with Will getting up every 2-3 hours most nights. You may remember that prior to about six months he was sleeping 8-9 hours at a stretch and I was rejoicing about what a great sleeper I had on my hands. When his sleep was starting to get a little disrupted at six months I think I might even have said something like “I would rather be up all night long with Will than deal with a cranky sleep deprived Emma in the morning.” How foolish.

When he started waking up all the time, we blamed his teeth. Then we blamed ourselves, perseverating over the mistakes we had made with regards to his sleep – nursing him till he was asleep, not putting him in his crib awake, bringing him to our bed too often, not letting him cry enough. Then we got tired of blaming ourselves and went back to blaming his teeth. Despite what the experts say about teeth NOT being as big a problem as most parents claim, I am here to tell you that those experts are, well, wrong. Way wrong. Totally. Wrong.

As I did with Emma at around the same age, I have obsessed about William’s sleep and convinced myself that he was ruined for life, that he would never sleep, and that I would be getting up to feed him every couple of hours when he was in college.

Sleep is a funny thing. When you are exhausted and sleep deprived at 3 am you will do anything to get that kid back to sleep. When the morning comes, you curse yourself for giving in, but in reality what exactly could have been done differently? Letting him cry for two hours just makes us all crazy and wakes up Emma, so what is the use of that? Especially if at the end of two hours, when nothing has calmed him down, we end up bringing him to bed anyway?

After almost two months of getting up three to four times a night, we finally turned to our pediatrician, who confirmed that it could be his teeth, that letting him cry for two hours was pretty useless, that we weren’t ruining him for life by nursing him or bringing him to bed, and gave us a book to help us along.

In the end Mike has had to be the one involved with Will at night, going in to him when he woke up and trying to soothe him back to sleep. It has taken weeks, and it is still a work in progress, but we are getting more good nights than bad these days.

In other Will news, he is *this* close to crawling. He started rocking back and forth on his knees about three weeks ago and now moves backwards with great enthusiasm, although he gets really really mad when he realizes he is not actually moving in the direction he wants. He can sit up completely on his own, and can flop over onto his belly when he wants to – but is still working on getting back into a sitting position from lying down. He loves to stand, but isn’t too solid yet and still needs someone to hold him up. Of course it might be the wild excited flailing he does that is causing him to be a little unsteady on his feet. When he gets excited while he is lying down, he flails both arms and both legs in unison – slamming all four of them down with great enthusiasm. This is great fun during a diaper change.

Yesterday he discovered – or maybe I discovered it – that he can wave. He looked at me across the room, got a big smile on his face and lifted his hand in the air. When I waved back he looked a little shocked and then smiled and waved even more. When he picks up a toy he holds it in his fingers and twists his hand back and forth at the wrist as he peers at it – it’s one of my favorite things ever.

He eats peas, carrots, butternut squash, sweet potatoes, pears and applesauce three times a day and has started drinking water out of sippy cups. For some reason watching other people drink is the funniest thing ever to him – he will watch us take a sip of something and break out into a huge grin.

Will took his first trip on a plane in October, to visit his Grammy and Grampy in Massachusetts, but other than that has stayed pretty close to home as we work on getting a nap schedule established and tackle the night time sleeping issue.

He remains amazingly mellow and sweet, and loves nothing more than to just sit and watch all of us as we make faces at him or sing to him or wave to him. He and Emma are starting to interact more and more, and when they aren’t interacting, he watches her curiously which she loves.

We love you Will – but just keep sleeping ok?

I had this delightful conversation this morning with Emma:

Me: Emma you are so beautiful.
Emma: You are so beautiful too mama.
Me: Wow, that is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me. I love you sweetie.
Emma: I like you too mama.

I love my little girl.

I have just managed to get both kids down for a nap at the same time, giving me a good hour, if I am lucky, to do SOMETHING productive.

Unfortunately I am so exhausted that all I can do is sit here and ruminate on my to-do list, knowing full well that at this point, the minute I get up to start on the list, one of the kids will wake up and that will be that. So why bother?

I have become adept at getting little tasks completed while the kids are awake. Example: putting the boy in the high chair with a toy and giving Emma a puzzle to do gives me just enough time to dump all the trash and take it all out to the curb for trash day. Or this: give Will crawling practice in the pack and play and get Emma excited about her “carons” (crayons to you) and I can actually get the dishes from breakfast done.

The larger tasks, like vacuuming, finishing the cutting in on the paint job in the dining room, or sorting and organizing the mounds of junk in the basement will just have to wait. Some day something miraculous will happen and I will have more than a distracted 30 minutes or hour during a nap to get the house in order.

Right now I have to go get the baby.